Where and how to spend your honeymoon
If you are romantic in nature and dream of a honeymoon, and the other half (such a person) considers it to be an “empty triviality”, “a meaningless relic of the past”, even an extra waste of time and money – show this article to your Zayka. Spoiler: We are unanimously in favor of honeymoon trips for newlyweds, but not in the vein of “this is the same wow wow in the life of a sweet couple”, but from the point of view of psychology and neurobiology. If you don’t need proof of the benefits of a joint adventure to strengthen your relationship, go straight down to the honeymoon travel ideas section.
Magic 21, oxytocin and imprinting
The need after the wedding-marriage to carelessly enjoy each other, ideally in travel, ideally, the ancestors felt a whole month intuitively. And today, the benefits of this action are confirmed by research and experimentation. Here is the honey:
Hormones. As you know, “love” is such a malash porridge of endorphins, adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, vasopressin and oxytocin. A joint journey is a way to “intoxicate” your soulmate with these hormones. This “love potion” enhances love, affection, mutual understanding, care and even fidelity. The development of “amorous stimulants” is provoked by tenderness, sex, exotic food, sunbathing, a joint experience of new sensations, achievement of goals. Be sure to intersperse paradise relaxation and hellish extreme in your vacation. The more exciting events experienced together, the stronger the feelings and the calmer the everyday troubles are tolerated!
Imprinting. This is when, at moments of emotional vulnerability, an image and / or a behavioral program “imprints” in the brain, which remains deep in memory for life. An example of how this can manifest itself in newlyweds. Both the wedding and the journey are a great shock, excitement. If you and the other half experience them in a positive way, then an imprint of a “positive image of a husband / wife” and “a program that a husband / wife is positive” may occur.
Habits. Based on the research, a “21-day rule” was deduced – a magical period for which a habit is formed. More precisely, this is the minimum period when every day should be filled with what you want to bring to your life (whether it is morning exercises or the ability to live together in a positive way). Therefore, it is recommended not to shorten the honeymoon to honeymoon, but spend it at least 21 days full of tenderness, care, compliments, surprises, joy and fun … Get used to each other correctly!
Personality expansion. American psychologist Arthur Aron, who explores the psychological phenomenon of love, argues: the relationship is in good shape while the partners give each other food to expand their personality. This is expressed in the exchange of knowledge, skills, experience, emotions, and for such an exchange you need time, space and favorable conditions, which are easier to find during a joint holiday. Joint leisure plays the same role, during which the lovers learn something together, get a thrill. Therefore, a honeymoon trip is not just a whim of romantics or a hackneyed “see the world, show yourself”, this is the best way to nourish the sense of life, give the brain more sensations.
How to plan a honeymoon
If you decide on a wedding, then you want to endlessly enjoy each other, fall asleep in an embrace and wake up from a kiss, look in the eyes with a smile, smooth every wrinkle and breathe the body of your beloved, beloved man … These are hormones, baby. And smart people know that with such fuel you can’t get far. Life pretty quickly absorbs the “porridge-malash”, therefore, to strengthen relations, you will have to connect your head. Well, you don’t have to wait until dopamine burns out and then let’s rush from corner to corner, trying to save the marriage. Approach wisely to building family life at the stage of laying the foundation. Yes, yes, this is what we call a wedding and a honeymoon – the foundation.
Just think: you are newlyweds – still the same ordinary guy and girl. Here you go through the initiation into husband and wife, almost immediately go on a trip, where you are experiencing a transformation together and come back by other people – spouses. This is your first joint ritual, the sacred action of family building. This is an adventure of two, a little test, during which each of you will grow in the eyes of each other. Or perhaps you will find your family Shambhala that will support and inspire in moments of sadness. If you correctly lay the foundation, then you really will become a single whole – a family!
Recommendations for the right honeymoon
Location and leisure necessarily – to the liking of both. The place should be new for both, where you equally (!) Want.
This is not the case where you need to insist on your own, persuade or make concessions. Showing your favorite childhood places, for example, is certainly important, but it’s better to visit them not on a joint holiday, but on your birthday or on a regular day off. After all, nostalgic objects will respond only to those who are already emotionally connected with them.